Let me share this little thought that has been running through my mind for a few weeks now…..
When I was a teen growing up the Pastor of the church I grew up in would say “Ask What and not Why” when it came to life and the things going on or not going on in it. It has been something that I have tried to practice in life and I find a good amount of wisdom in it.
Here are some thoughts on what I like about this:
Why is a question that many times will leave you wanting – there might not be a satisfactory answer as to why something did or did not happen. Why is many times question that is self pity focused. Why does not move you forward but keeps you stuck.
What on the other hand will bring you answers to questions asked. What is an outward focused question that moves you forward.
Let me give an example how I think changing why’s to what can make a difference.
Why is this happening to me – notice the focus is on self. What can I learn from this – it about self yes but also about information that can be passed on and the answer will move you forward. When you ask what – God has the opportunity to teach you and show things. It opens up the process and I see asking Why in life will many times close things down.
One last thing – I am all for Why’s of curiosity but when it comes to the why’s that come from a poor me – I think that is the time to jump to the what question. I am not saying it is never right to ask why but I think when it comes to life events that happen to us – what is always a much better question.
Those are my two cents – what say you? What are your thoughts on why verse what?